How to Forgive Other People
Acknowledge that you were hurt: It’s okay to be angry at someone. There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging the fact that someone hurt you. Once you recognize that someone’s words or actions had a negative impact on you, you can start the process of forgiving them.
Remember that we’re all human: No matter what type of harm someone may have caused you, it’s important to remember that all people are complex beings. The guy who stole your wallet has had a life just like you and has done much more than just steal your wallet. Even if you’ve never stolen anything, you should be able to understand that he made a bad decision and can still be forgiven.
Forget about “getting even”: The concept of getting vengeance on someone who wronged you is a toxic idea that will only make it more difficult for you to forgive yourself. Honestly, if you want other people to relinquish the grudges they have toward you, you should start thinking in terms of forgiveness and stop thinking about the possibility of getting someone back for what they did.